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Just Remind Me? Ouch! Those spiky comments! How might I handle them differently?

May 16 @ 10:00 am - 12:45 pm

| Free

Want to refresh some of the key ideas from TC1?

This workshop is designed for people who have previously completed a Bridge Builders Transforming Conflict 1/Transforming Church Conflict course. It’s one of a series called Just Remind Me?, offering opportunities to refresh and build on some of the key ideas from the foundation course and embed those ideas in our practice and local context.

Build on the foundation

Being on the receiving end of seemingly barbed comments, in person, or via email, is a constant challenge. They often seem to catch us at the most inopportune moments or when we are short of energy or patience. Sometimes it seems there are only two options – absorb or hit back – both of which are emotionally costly and neither of which address the deepest concerns of those involved.

This short workshop will be an opportunity to think again about “changing the focus” of these conversations; to explore what options might be appropriate in any given context; what might lie behind the spiky comments that come our way; and how we might manage our own anxious responses to seek something constructive in what seems destructive;

Alongside input on the topic, there will be opportunity to reflect with others in a small group on your own context and experiences and to work on practical examples.

Book for this workshop if you found the insights on communication and reframing introduced in the foundation course helpful, and if you would like to explore about what it looks like for you to work at these insights in practice.


Liz Griffiths is Director of Training for Bridge Builders. She is an Anglican Priest and has a broad experience of both parish ministry and adult education. Liz has worked in city centre and urban estate parishes, and as Vice-Principal of the Eastern Region Ministry Course, helping to train ordained and lay ministers.

Rupert Ward is a Bridge Builders Training Partner. He leads a church in the centre of Edinburgh and is increasingly devoting time to training and facilitation of leadership groups in other churches & charities. He has trained in facilitation, counselling and theology.




Running from 10:00am to 12:45pm, the programme includes presentation and an opportunity to reflect with others on practical examples and personal experience.

Main elements of the workshop:

  • A refresher on some of the key challenges of communication in times of tension
  • Exploring how insights on systems and anxious behaviour might help to make sense of a difficult encounter
  • Opportunities to work on practical examples and to share experience with others
  • Debrief and discussion of typical challenges

Course Pre-work

Prior to the workshop it would be helpful for you to revisit the sections on Communications/Creating a Constructive Focus (Reframing)   in the Transforming Conflict 1/Transforming Church Conflict course manual. You will also be asked to bring examples from your own experience – more details will be given prior to the workshop.

Cost and Location

Cost £25. The workshop takes place online via Zoom. Details of the Zoom link will be circulated shortly before the event.

Please note: the workshop is only open to those who have previously completed our foundation course, Transforming Conflict 1 or its predecessor Transforming Church Conflict.

Booking and Cancellation

To apply, add a ticket to your cart below below. If you are subsequently unable to attend, please do let us know as soon as possible, in order to release a place for someone else.

If no more places are available and you would like to be added to a waiting list, please contact us on 020 3968 4999 or email richard@bbministries.org.uk.

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May 16
10:00 am - 12:45 pm
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