Mediating Interpersonal Conflicts: Skills Training for Christians
January 19, 2020 @ 5:00 pm - January 24, 2020 @ 5:00 pm| £945
“God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ, …has given us the ministry of reconciliation.” 2 Corinthians 5:18
The gospel calls us to keep short accounts with one another (Mt 5:23-24) and to address issues as they come up (Mt 18:15-17). Sometimes it is difficult to do this ourselves and we need someone with the right attitude and skills to help us. Mediation is one way of providing that support for individuals who find themselves in broken relationships and who want reconciliation with their brother or sister in Christ.
This five-day course is open to anyone who has completed the Bridge Builders’ Transforming Conflict 1 or Transforming Church Conflict foundation course and wants to develop their mediation skills further to include more formal mediation. The course is particularly relevant for those who might be part of a local or regional mediation team. It has proved especially useful when several participants from the same regional area (e.g. a diocese, district or synod) are trained as part of a strategic initiative to bring about a change of culture.
One of Bridge Builders key areas of focus is about improving the quality and competency of church mediation and we are delighted that this course has been approved and accredited by College of Mediators. and appears on their website as an approved course. It has been redesigned to include an assessment process on day 5 of the training. As a result, participants will need to stay to the end of the course, 4:35pm Friday, and to complete written reflections on practice.
Building on what is learnt during the Transforming Church Conflict/Transforming Conflict 1 course (standard or senior leaders’), this is an opportunity to gain a thorough grounding in interpersonal mediation. Mediating Interpersonal Conflicts will introduce you to a mediation process that you practice step by step. Although focused on transforming conflicts among Christians, the skills can be used wherever there is a role, formal or informal, for intervention by a third party mediator.
The course will include teaching, group work and safe space for guided practice. Active and practical in focus, the sessions will emphasise hands-on skills training and use role-plays based on the kinds of conflicts encountered in the church. There will be opportunities to meet with members of the training team to reflect on progress during the week in preparation for the end of course assessment.
Each day will include times of prayer and worship. The course is intensive; significant other commitments should be avoided during the week.
Colin Moulds is Executive Director of Bridge Builders. He has been providing training, mediation and consultancy services in both the workplace and churches since 2009. Colin’s experience in Leadership and Management is built from 23 years with the world’s largest mobile telecommunications provider.
Joanna Williams is a Baptist minister with a conflict transformation portfolio in the Baptist Union. A community mediator in North West England, she has extensive experience of training others in mediation and Christian ministry.
Liz Griffiths is Director of Training for Bridge Builders. She is an Anglican Priest and has a broad experience of both parish ministry and adult education. Liz has worked in city centre and urban estate parishes, and as Vice-Principal of the Eastern Region Ministry Course, helping to train ordained and lay ministers.
Sunday 19 January – arrival by 6:30pm for supper and introductions
Monday 20 January
- Foundation and vision for mediation
- Getting people to the table
- Understanding ourselves as mediators
Tuesday 21 January
- Mediation demonstration
- Introduction and story-telling
- Identifying common ground and issues
- Teamwork in mediation
Wednesday 22 January
- Problem-solving and healing strategies
- Documenting underlying concerns
- Factors affecting outcome
- Progress assessment
Thursday 23 January
- Building agreements
- Putting it all together
- Adapting the mediation process
Friday 24 January – departure by 4:35pm (dependent on numbers being assessed)
- Spiritual support for mediators
- Reflection, conclusion and review
Prior to attending the course:
- Read your TCC/TC1 manual to remind yourself of the topics listed below:
- communication skills
- distinguishing between issues, positions and underlying concerns
- informal mediation and formal mediation.
- Reflect on any previous conflict experiences – what do they teach you about yourself which will be important to recognise when facing conflict in others.
- Identify someone who you could call during the week as a pastoral support if needed.
Meals and Accommodation
The course is residential, with single en-suite accommodation provided from Sunday evening to Friday morning, and with meals provided each day from Sunday evening until Friday lunch time, of breakfast, lunch and evening meal at Felden Lodge Conference Centre, Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire. The centre is set in 32 acres of grounds and is close to road and rail links.
Cost and Application
The fee is £1020 with an early bird rate of £945 if booked by 28 October 2019. A training manual is provided at the start of the course.
Bursaries: if you are on a low income, a bursary may be available to help cover the cost of attending. Please see the bursary information page.
Please note: the course is only open to those who have previously completed our foundation course, Transforming Church Conflict.
Booking and Cancellation
To apply, add a ticket to your cart below below. Applications remain provisional until Bridge Builders has received a deposit of £100. The balance of the fee is due eight weeks before the start of the course (i.e. by 25 November 2019). Once accepted, the £100 deposit is non-refundable. The full fee is owed if a place is cancelled within eight weeks of the course start date (i.e. from 25 November 2019 onwards). Please see our terms and conditions and data protection policy.
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